What exactly do I mean when I say "Tori Heyman Fit Life?"
I'm not just talking about workouts and nutrition. I'm not just talking about a healthy body.
I'm talking about a healthy body, mind, and soul.
It is my humble opinion that if one aspect of that is missing or lacking, you aren't TRULY happy.
And you see that banner up at the top of this page? It says, "happy through healthy."
Heck yes, this journey to finding/creating/molding yourself into the best version of you can absolutely start with a focus on better nutrition. And, heck yes, it can start with a kickbutt workout program. And no, I don't necessarily recommend trying to attack all areas at one time because holy wow that could be overwhelming. But as I have continued along this path to becoming the best version of me, I realize that I can workout all day long but if my mentality isn't where it needs to be, then I just don't feel right. Something feels off. Or if I have been diving into some personal development but have skipped some workouts, it takes a toll on how I view myself.
If any area is lacking, negativity enters my mind.
That's what I'm trying to say.
That little voice in my head gets mean and ugly. When I'm scrolling through my Facebook newsfeed and find myself judging others, I know I am not connected to my true sense of the me I intend to be. If I look in the mirror and see flaws and start saying mean things to myself, I know I need to pick it up somewhere.
And that takes a toll on how I talk to myself, how I interact with others (including my husband), and shifts my focus to selfish thoughts and actions as opposed to a focus on forming a deeper relationship with Jesus.
And that takes a toll on how I talk to myself, how I interact with others (including my husband), and shifts my focus to selfish thoughts and actions as opposed to a focus on forming a deeper relationship with Jesus.
I never did personal development until this year. I always thought I was a pretty positive person and therefore didn't need it. But now that I read or listen to some form of it daily, I realize just how much I had been missing out on. I had been limiting myself. In all areas of life. That's really what it boils down to.
In high school and college, as I realized I was growing up and turning into an adult, I started figuring out the kind of person I wanted to be. I had met some people who I'd think, "Wow. She has such a kind heart. I want to be more like that," or, "I want to be as bubbly and happy as she is," or, "I wish I knew what it felt like to hear God speaking to you." This image of a certain type of woman living a certain type of life entered my mind and I knew I wanted to be her...
...but I had no idea how to become her. That's the next step after deciding something, right? How? I was clueless for quite some time...
Until this year. Until I started growing my mind. Learning how to break through those limits I had set for myself. Until I started figuring out how to get closer to God.
I'd said to myself many times in the past that I wanted to live more like Jesus and align my thoughts and actions with Him. I'd seen numerous quotes that smacked me in the face, realizing that I wasn't living like that. I'd remind myself that I wasn't praying as much as I wanted to..
"When the student is ready, the teacher will come."
We've all heard that one, right? Well, insert here:
I asked one of the leaders in my business (via a message on Facebook) HOW she turned her business and her life around, as she had told us on a team call that she had done the previous year. All she told me was, "Start here." and sent me a screenshot of an audiobook called The Secrets of the Power of Intention. I had never talked to this girl ever and was kind of sad that she didn't say more because, much like so many of the other new amazing women that were in this new circle of people I was intentionally surrounding myself with, I admired her. I wanted to pick her brain because I just had to figure out how to do what she had done. But, I went with it. I downloaded the Audible app and was really excited that your first download is free so I could get the audiobook without paying the $35 it's listed for. (Hint, hint ;) ) It's over 6 hours long but I knew this was something I HAD to commit to.
So I started it on a Friday morning and...I just couldn't. stop. listening. By the end of the day I had almost completed it. And now it pretty much plays on a loop whenever I have a minute to spare. (In the shower, in the car, scrolling through Instagram....) Why has it been so transformative for me? Well, I could say a LOT right here, and maybe I'll expand at a later date, but the short answer is this:
I have never felt closer to God. I have never felt His presence like I do now. I have never felt so connected to Him. I've never truly understood treating my body as a temple, a gift from God that I desire to nurture as He would. I've never wanted to squeeze so much life out of each day He blesses me with.
Listening to this has absolutely been the number one thing that is helping me daily to grow into the woman I always wanted to be. Rather, I intended to be. (You'll get that once you listen.)
But...it's hard for me to say that audiobook is the number one thing that's changed me. Because if I had not reached out to that woman, I never would have known. And I never would have reached out to that woman if I had not been feeding my mind to grow in my self-confidence and comfort level with communicating with new people. But I never would have worked on that had I not joined the team of fitness coaches that I did. But I never would have become a coach had I not committed to losing weight and getting back in shape. But I never would have needed to do all of that if I hadn't gotten pregnant. Never would have gotten pregnant had I not gotten married. Wouldn't have gotten married to the man I did or when I did had I not met him at the college I chose.......I could obviously keep going and/or break it down further for you, but do you understand what I'm trying to say?
It's all connected.
This is why I'm so glad my mom taught me to always live by, "there is a reason for everything." I always knew that one choice you make will lead you to the next, whether that be a good decision or something you might regret, but...
...the incredible thing
is that you will always get
exactly where you are supposed to be,
at the exact moment
you are meant to be there.
In high school and college, as I realized I was growing up and turning into an adult, I started figuring out the kind of person I wanted to be. I had met some people who I'd think, "Wow. She has such a kind heart. I want to be more like that," or, "I want to be as bubbly and happy as she is," or, "I wish I knew what it felt like to hear God speaking to you." This image of a certain type of woman living a certain type of life entered my mind and I knew I wanted to be her...
...but I had no idea how to become her. That's the next step after deciding something, right? How? I was clueless for quite some time...
Until this year. Until I started growing my mind. Learning how to break through those limits I had set for myself. Until I started figuring out how to get closer to God.
I'd said to myself many times in the past that I wanted to live more like Jesus and align my thoughts and actions with Him. I'd seen numerous quotes that smacked me in the face, realizing that I wasn't living like that. I'd remind myself that I wasn't praying as much as I wanted to..
"When the student is ready, the teacher will come."
We've all heard that one, right? Well, insert here:
I asked one of the leaders in my business (via a message on Facebook) HOW she turned her business and her life around, as she had told us on a team call that she had done the previous year. All she told me was, "Start here." and sent me a screenshot of an audiobook called The Secrets of the Power of Intention. I had never talked to this girl ever and was kind of sad that she didn't say more because, much like so many of the other new amazing women that were in this new circle of people I was intentionally surrounding myself with, I admired her. I wanted to pick her brain because I just had to figure out how to do what she had done. But, I went with it. I downloaded the Audible app and was really excited that your first download is free so I could get the audiobook without paying the $35 it's listed for. (Hint, hint ;) ) It's over 6 hours long but I knew this was something I HAD to commit to.
So I started it on a Friday morning and...I just couldn't. stop. listening. By the end of the day I had almost completed it. And now it pretty much plays on a loop whenever I have a minute to spare. (In the shower, in the car, scrolling through Instagram....) Why has it been so transformative for me? Well, I could say a LOT right here, and maybe I'll expand at a later date, but the short answer is this:
I have never felt closer to God. I have never felt His presence like I do now. I have never felt so connected to Him. I've never truly understood treating my body as a temple, a gift from God that I desire to nurture as He would. I've never wanted to squeeze so much life out of each day He blesses me with.
Listening to this has absolutely been the number one thing that is helping me daily to grow into the woman I always wanted to be. Rather, I intended to be. (You'll get that once you listen.)
But...it's hard for me to say that audiobook is the number one thing that's changed me. Because if I had not reached out to that woman, I never would have known. And I never would have reached out to that woman if I had not been feeding my mind to grow in my self-confidence and comfort level with communicating with new people. But I never would have worked on that had I not joined the team of fitness coaches that I did. But I never would have become a coach had I not committed to losing weight and getting back in shape. But I never would have needed to do all of that if I hadn't gotten pregnant. Never would have gotten pregnant had I not gotten married. Wouldn't have gotten married to the man I did or when I did had I not met him at the college I chose.......I could obviously keep going and/or break it down further for you, but do you understand what I'm trying to say?
It's all connected.
This is why I'm so glad my mom taught me to always live by, "there is a reason for everything." I always knew that one choice you make will lead you to the next, whether that be a good decision or something you might regret, but...
...the incredible thing
is that you will always get
exactly where you are supposed to be,
at the exact moment
you are meant to be there.
Well, this post took a turn away from what I initially meant to include...but thinking about it, I really didn't know what was going to come out-- that's partially why it took me so long to write it.
So, I guess the shortest answer I can give to the sweet lady that requested this post:
Surround yourself with people who are a shining example of how you want to live.
Continuously remind yourself to BE kindness, joy, and love in every thought, every action, and every decision. (And if you catch yourself falling from that, realize that at any moment you can choose to change your mood/tone/thought/action.)
Always keep believing that you deserve to be loved by a Perfect Love and you are far more valuable and worthy than you give yourself credit for.
And, finally, trust that God is making moves in your life to keep pushing you toward that person you are meant to be, living a life far greater than you can imagine, because He loves us more than we can understand.
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